Life has its Tendencies

 Life has its Tendencies 

What does this tittle mean? What is a tendency? Are they important? Do I have tendencies?

These may have been some of the thoughts that flashed through your mind as you read the tittle of this blog. Today I want share some of my thoughts on these things and how they relate to us and our families. 

To begin I want to start by answering those questions. Before discussing into what tendencies are I feel it is necessary for us to have a clear understanding of exactly a tendency is.  We are going to use the wonderful gift of our Oxford dictionary to define this one. The dictionary states "an inclination toward a particular characteristic or type of behavior." Tendencies are actions that an individual takes part in as their behavior. So now going back to our questions now that we have and understanding. Life has types of behavior. That is a given! Individuals, groups, families, and all other things have tendencies. What is a tendency? I think we made that clear already. Now, are they important? Tendencies are important yes! With relation to families, most definitely. These types of behavior can help us to read each other, they can help us be unique, and I feel deeply that tendencies or these patterns can tell where someone is going in life. This I will touch on more shortly. The last question is do I have tendencies. The answer to this question is yes. Everyone has routines, habits, and their own personal way of life. Your tendencies make you who you are! 

I feel it is time to bring in the relation in family to tendencies, how they are expressed, and why these are important. In a family with children we will obviously find that a son in the family acts different and has different behaviors then a daughter would. The same tendencies developed  continue until adulthood with variation.

I pose the question... Do you feel that men and woman should have stereotypical tendencies? 

When we look at these tendencies that each gender has we can brake these down. Many studies show that gender is most often connected to a type of behavior.

Men have the tendencies most often of, being a protector, providing, being sheltered in feelings, physical responses, and many others. Of course they are not limited to that and these are not the required habits or behaviors. Women too have stereotypical tendencies, these being things like more nurturing, solving conflict with words, more loving and expressive. Now these qualities are available to all. Do you agree or disagree?

I feel that the world can often discriminate a man or a woman for having tendencies that are often possessed in the other gender. This discrimination, too is often not held at the same level. Woman sometimes are seen as tough when they have the tendencies that most males posses and a man can be seen as weak if he posses the tendencies that most woman have. Is this fair? Should that be allowed? I am also curious to know, should a specific gender be held to a standard of tendencies where it is expected of that individual? 

In my opinion no one should feel that there live must be governed by the "typical". We have the gift of choice! We should use it. With this, my opinion, I feel that there are responsibilities at different stages of our life that somewhat require for us to have these tendencies. When a couple makes the decision to have a child, they need to have some of these. The nurturing tendency must be theirs and if it is not something that they have had before, it must be developed. In this there are other positions in life where we have responsible and we are supposed to rise to the occasion. I believe reward is given to those who follow the respected side of tendencies.