What is Needed?

Today's discussion is on contact!

That is physical contact. Now when first thinking about this you are probably like well two people they love each other, they are physically intimate. That is actually not always the case. In fact all people take physical affection different and interpret it in so many ways. 

I want to use a little example to help expand your mind before we get into this. I think back to high school and what a first kiss often meant. For the guy it was what was cool. He would go back and tell his buddies and then he was accepted by them. For the girl it often means that there are true feelings there. The boy loves me the girl thinks. We have different perspectives through the same experience. Side note this is not my experience haha.  

We have been all about communication throughout this blog. In every way is it helpful. Well we are not stopping with that today. We need to make sure that our physical touch is given and communicated. Here we get into different effects of physical touch in a family.
The number one affect from touching is the feeling of Belonging. There have been so many different studies on this and the long term affects it truly does have. Within children they have succeeded more often then not when there parents hug them and just show them that affection. This is a need that children and teens have. It has also been often recorded through professionals that in families with multiple children the physical aspect is separated and this has caused problems. While a newborn is brought into a family, the oldest sibling feels left out. The oldest sibling too is at an age where he has to find himself. The supposed lack of love he feels from his parents causes him to rebel. This is often seen in families. 

We also have our relationship with our lover. In this relationship we have been gifted to be with someone that we can share physical and all other types of love with each other. If the physical side of the relationship is left out, which happens surprisingly often, the relationship misses balance. This touch needs to be loving because we can experience it in ways of lust. 

Let's just layout all of the positive about having contact with those that we love. The great affects contact has is understanding, belonging, feelings of power, respect, and a lot of others. If touch is positive then the response is positive. Simple as that. 

With mentioning understanding I feel the need to dive deeper into that. We all know people who are extremely dry. If these people just display there emotion with a little bit of contact it makes things easier to understand. If you are a parent and you are upset at you kid, give him a little flick in the head. Do something to portray what you are feeling. Now do not ever go to the extent of hurting someone through emotion, that is never okay. If you are proud of your child give him a hug. There are ways to display the emotion physically. If you are just playing around give your kid a little push or something. You have to be physical in your relationships.

In sharing that which has been shared I would simply encourage you to be loving in your families and that you would display that in positive contact. It has been proven in humans and even with animals that physical touch leads to success. There are countless, famous examples, where in a study the deciding factor was physical touch. I know that your family will be closer through this. I know that your kids will behave as you desire them to through this. There are only positive outcomes for this type of change. Plus never in my life did I feel that I wasn't loved when my parents would hug me.