the BIG fear

 the BIG fear

We have spent so much time discussing relationships. We have dived into the helpful things that allow for our relationship to survive. Sadly we can not always succeed in this.

Despite working extremely hard to save a relationship sometimes it does not work. This is probably one of the biggest fears that we face in getting into a relationship. Divorce is something that a lot of people have no desire ever experiencing. In fact I am one of those people. Despite this fear of divorce it should never be the reason that people do not further their relationship. Divorce should not be the reason that you do not get married. Divorce should not be the reason that people do not look for fun. Even if it is something that they have already faced. I assume you have an idea of what our topic is today. It is divorce and why it is something that should not restrain us in life.

Divorce is a fairly common thing. Far from as much as people think however. The percent of divorces that actually go through is actually less then twenty five percent. I mean does that give you no chance of it happening to you, no. But is it guaranteed? Also no. That percentage should bring you peace. 

With statistics in mind lets look at factors that affect divorce and the rate divorce goes through with these. Things or events that could cause divorce honestly happen quite a bit. On of the events being an act of cheating. This is actually followed by a stat that is surprising. Sixty three percent of marriage that face cheating save their marriage. That means that they were able to work things out. There fore even if divorce is possible, so is working things out. 

Now we are going to continue with the positive facts and stats. We mentioned the sixty three percent that saved their marriage from corruption. Now how did it affect their relationship? It may be hard to believe but fifty percent reported that it actually strengthened their relationship. Now I am sure that it came with some painful consequences but it ended up being helpful. With the idea of the pain in mind and these acts just being horrible do not participate in cheating. It is never okay. These people were able to just realize their mistake and fix it. 

Now still in the manner of divorce we have the reports of those who did not choose to fix the marriage. When discussed with people who experienced divorce seventy percent of them said that it was for both parties satisfactory. It was what was needed to happen and these people were able to just take their experience and learn from it. 

Currently we have already been able to list 4 positive experiences in dealing with divorce. Divorce or the thought of, can actually mend relationships. Now there is a certain responsibility that should take place before this decision is made. Divorce should not be the first place to turn to. In fact it should probably be one of the last. We are simply stating these things so that the fears stay away. 

It is important that we work to avoid divorce. Often the idea of divorce is fed by the voices of the world because of the smallest things. Whether it be an argument or just a simple fight, the world feeds off of that in a very negative way. Strive to save your relationship and do not cave to the negative voices in this world.

There is also a stat for people who did not give their all to save their marriage. When talked to those who did participate in divorce, two years after that experience, they said that they could have saved their marriage. It would be a very sad thing if you did get a divorce to look back and know that you could have saved your relationship with someone who you at one time loved so much. 

See counsel in these things. Work to be happy with the one that you fell in love with. If you feel that maybe you haven't truly loved them, work to fall in love with them.